I do not take advice
Hey Faithers,
Happy Wednesday! Wheew, this has been a week. Last week was terrible, but this week I made an effort to make this a better week indeed. If you caught the podcast from this week, then you know I posed the question, "Do you know yourself?" This was based on a conversation I had with a business partner. As I've been in therapy, I have discovered my younger self and how she needs to heal. My younger self has always felt out of place and always felt the need to prove her presence. While my present self is healed and in tune with herself, the self-discovery is that little Lisa still needs healing. I have been investing time into my ego recently. I have known and understood about the ego, but I never took the time to invest in MY ego. So, recently, I've had to discover what is still inside of me that causes me to be short-tempered, angry, and aggravated. The truth is, little Lisa still feels like she has to prove herself. There is a battle between Little Lisa and Present Lisa. Present Lisa knows and understands we have nothing to prove to anyone. Then there is Little Lisa, who feels we have to prove everything, and when someone questions me, we should be offended. I had to walk away from a conversation because it was disturbing my spirit. I wanted to be angry and curse, but I knew I had a bigger purpose. It's not even to say that the other person was wrong, but I had to set that boundary myself. I had to make the executive decisions that I was no longer participating in a conversation that would send me into a downward spiral. For so long, I lived in everyone else's shadow and looked for acceptance from the whole world. I wanted to be like everyone else. I wanted to look, sing, and act like them. Lisa never felt good enough. Lisa always felt like the little and smaller person who was never smart enough. This brings me to the point of the blog. I want to explain to you why I do not take advice. My whole life, from the moment I started to understand my purpose, I always looked for the answer in other people. I wanted their approval. I wanted approval so bad that I did not even know myself. I talk about this in my first book; Everyone Has A Story. I discussed how I did not know what a hobby or my fave color was, and I did everything to serve everyone else. It took me a while to discover myself. I am so proud to be here at this moment. I am actively investing and healing myself. When I started healing, I decided that I would no longer accept opinions and advice from others, and I would no longer give advice. Opinions are only from people's perspectives. Perspectives are from people's opinions, and most times, what I can go through does not mean someone else can. If someone asks for my advice, I might give it. But very rarely do I ask for advice. And if I do need advice, I will directly ask. But to be honest, 98% of the time, I already know what needs to be done. Now I need someone to tell me to calm down because I get flustered so quickly. But because of my healing, I do not take or need advice. This drives people nuts. Most of the time, because people want to give advice, I quickly stop them. My problems do not need to become yours. I've accepted my place in life and who I am. I know people want to give the advice to help, but I did not ask. I did not ask because Lisa has entered a new phase where she now trusts herself. She no longer needs to depend on anyone else for their input. Instead, she has dedicated time and energy to herself. Lisa trusts herself so much that she can now listen to herself and move forward. It's nothing personal to those who want to help, but for me and this stage that I am in, I am accepting of who I am, and I understand that I have my place in life. I love the healing version of me.
I hope that you are starting to trust yourself and love yourself if you're reading this. I am rooting for you to heal and be loved! You deserve everything back that you have put into the world! I love you, but I want you to love you the way you love the world.
LeLe,
Your local self-love advocate
